Few conversations are more complicated than telling your parents that you are unexpectedly pregnant. You worry they will be disappointed, angry, or fearful.
We’ve got some suggestions for starting the conversation. Once the news is out, you might be surprised at the support they give.
First of All, Have You Confirmed Your Pregnancy?
Believe it or not, a positive pregnancy test and a late period may not be enough information to determine if you are pregnant. Experts estimate that as many as 26% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage, and most occur in the first 12 weeks.
Because it takes a woman’s body time to return to pre-pregnancy hormone levels, it is entirely possible to get a positive pregnancy test days or even weeks following a miscarriage.
How do you confirm your pregnancy? Get confirmation with a follow-up pregnancy test and a limited OB ultrasound. An ultrasound can detect if your pregnancy is developing or if you have had a miscarriage.
You can also find out how far along you are and if the pregnancy is growing in the correct location. Talk to a Pee Dee team member to learn more about the importance of confirming your pregnancy through ultrasound.
What Are Your Plans for the Pregnancy?
If you approach your parents with information about your pregnancy options, they will recognize you are handling the situation maturely. Talk with a Pee Dee team member about your various options. You have three: have an abortion, make an adoption plan, or choose to parent.
You don’t have to have a definite plan, but it helps to be able to talk about your choices. Your parents will also know what’s available to you.
Is It Time to Talk?
Even with confirmation of your pregnancy and information about your options, speaking with your folks can be scary. Timing is essential when sharing such a significant life change. Choose the most convenient time and place for you and your parents.
Are you most comfortable at home? Would it be better to meet in a public place? You need to be safe. If you feel the conversation will cause an angry or violent response, consider having a friend or your partner with you.
Pick a time when you know they won’t be distracted. This is not a conversation for someone rushing out the door. Take responsibility and plan a face-to-face meeting. Ask them when would be a good time to have a serious discussion.
Remember, it took a while for the reality of your pregnancy to sink in. Let your parents have time to grasp what you are saying.
You could begin the conversation with one of these phrases:
- “I have something incredibly important to talk to you about.”
- “I realize this might be difficult to process, but I’m pregnant.”
- “I know this will be hard to hear, but I’m pregnant, and I would really appreciate your love and support.”
Stay strong. Your parents may be disappointed, but try to avoid reacting to their immediate response. You’ve got this.
Let Pee Dee Pregnancy Resource Center Help You
Schedule a time to discuss your current situation with a team member. You can conveniently and confidentially make an appointment or call (910) 997-3040.
We know this is a stressful time, and we are here to help. Let’s talk!